It is often observed that when a girl gets married and moves to her new home, she faces both psychological and physical challenges.
Many newly married women, transitioning from a single life to a married one, experience mental stress in adjusting to the new environment, household, and lifestyle. This period of change can be emotionally overwhelming, and some find it difficult to adapt.
In cases of arranged marriages where the couple had no prior interaction, understanding and bonding between the husband and wife can take time.
They may struggle to give each other the necessary space, which can lead to emotional distance early in the marriage. In such situations, patience, tolerance, and effort to build mutual understanding are crucial. The couple should focus on love, respect, and fulfilling each other’s rights to strengthen their bond.
However, alongside these psychological challenges, newly married women often experience physical issues that they never faced before. Unfortunately, in some families, this leads to ignorant and insensitive remarks, such as:
“She’s a sickly girl.”
“She has so many health issues.”
“We got a sick daughter-in-law,”
and so on.
Husbands and particularly judgmental mothers-in-law should remember that there is a vast difference between life before and after marriage.
Mothers-in-law should reflect on their own post-marriage experiences, as they too may have faced physical changes. This is the time to show compassion and understanding toward their daughters-in-law.
Physical Changes After Marriage
Before marriage, a woman typically has no sexual relations and leads a normal life. After marriage, her hormones undergo changes due to intimacy, which can result in both psychological and physical changes. Some of these include:
Persistent diarrhea for some time after marriage.
Changes or irregularities in the menstrual cycle, which can be worrying if not experienced before.
Urinary infections.
Infections in sensitive areas.
Hair fall.
Stomach issues like acidity or pain.
Nausea without actual vomiting.
Loss of appetite or increased hunger.
Extreme weakness.
Constipation.
Other physical issues can arise, causing stress for the woman, who may feel she was perfectly healthy before marriage. This, unfortunately, sometimes leads to suspicion from the husband and in-laws. They may accuse her of being unwell prior to marriage or even consider it deceit. In extreme cases, small-minded families may seek divorce, often encouraged by the mother-in-law, claiming, “She’s too sick to manage household responsibilities.”
The Need for Awareness and Compassion
Husbands and in-laws, particularly women in the family, should educate themselves about the medical realities behind these changes.
The physical and hormonal adjustments are natural and often a result of new environments, sexual relations, and dietary changes. With patience, support, medical consultation, and proper nutrition, these issues can be resolved, and the bride can return to her pre-marriage physical state.
It is essential to treat these matters as normal instead of reacting ignorantly or spreading rumors about the bride’s health.
Consulting a doctor, providing necessary medicines and a healthy diet, and creating a stress-free environment can help resolve these problems. Rather than resorting to accusations or divorce, families should approach these changes with understanding and maturity.
