A couple that engages in intimacy after romance is never dissatisfied with their bedroom life, because the attraction and desire for human skin is naturally present in every person.
In our society, there has been a mindset and tradition for centuries that a wife’s role is only to lie on the bed like a mattress, while the husband does all the work. This misconception should be discarded. Women also have physical needs that must be fulfilled. Some women, out of shyness, refrain from doing anything, thinking that sexual activity is the husband’s responsibility, and if they take any initiative, the husband might consider them shameless. They remain silent, thinking they are preserving their modesty, fearing what the husband might think or say about them. Such women are being extremely foolish.
Dear women, climbing onto your husband’s body is your legitimate right; using your hands and feet to enjoy your desires with your husband is what marriage is for. There’s nothing to be ashamed of in this. Foolish women lie passively in bed, thinking that wives are only there to serve their husbands like donkeys, to help them reach their destination. But who told you that you should provide a donkey ride for your husband? It is your legitimate right for your husband to fulfill your sexual needs, and you can explicitly demand your right. Using your hands and feet, seeking pleasure, and satisfying your desires is also part of your nature. Learn to use it, and satisfy your mind with the romance you desire so that your irritability and restlessness can be eliminated, allowing you to manage your home and children in peace.
Dear devout women, this sexual desire is a natural need of your body; recognize it.
Romance is a natural need for both men and women. Without it, the intimacy that follows can never bring complete peace. The mind remains restless even after solitary intimacy, and the body feels broken and incomplete. Men who do not love their wives and are only interested in fulfilling their own needs are selfish. Such selfish men never engage in foreplay; they just get on with the act of intercourse and leave.
Such husbands are indebted to their wives. Ignoring their wives’ emotions and not giving love is a slap in the face of marriage, and they will certainly be held accountable for it. The reason why marriage is considered a Sunnah (a practice of the Prophet) is because it fulfills the sexual needs of both partners. A woman has the same desires that are found in a man, but most wives are too shy to express it and suppress themselves. Suppressing this passionate desire repeatedly leads to psychological issues like hysteria in women. But they are afraid to say that they also need a body, a touch, that their bodies need physical contact too. Only a wise man understands this, as ignorant men treat their wives as donkeys.
